Cover -- Half Title -- Title Page -- Copyright Page -- Table of Contents -- Acknowledgments -- Introduction: recognition, intersubjectivity and the Third -- 1 Beyond doer and done to: an intersubjective view of thirdness -- 2 Our appointment in Thebes: acknowledgment, the failed witness and fear of harming -- 3 Transformations in thirdness: mutual recognition, vulnerability and asymmetry -- I. You've come a long way baby -- II. Responsibility, vulnerability and the analyst's surrender to change -- 4 An Other take on the riddle of sex: excess, affect and gender complementarity -- 5 Paradox and play: the uses of enactment -- I. The paradox is the thing -- II. Enactment, play and the work -- III. Putting music and lyrics together -- 6 Playing at the edge: negation, recognition and the lawful world -- I. Beginning with No ... and Yes -- II. Trauma, violence and recognition of the Other (Me) -- 7 Beyond "Only one can live": witnessing, acknowledgment and the moral Third -- Bibliography -- Index