If you want to make God laugh, Woody Allen once said, tell him about your plans. But most of us don't find it all that funny when things go wrong. Most of us want love. Most of us want a nice job, healthy children and a comfortable home. Many of us grew up with parents who made these things look relatively easy and assumed we would manage it, too. So what do you do if you don't? Or if you had some of these things and lost them? What do you do when you feel you've messed it all up and your friends seem to be doing just fine? For the journalist Christina Patterson, it was her work as a writer and columnist on a national newspaper that kept her going through the ups and downs of life, health and mid-life dating. And then she lost that, too. Dreaming of revenge and irritated by self-help books, she decided to do the kind of interviews she'd never done before.